With a decade of experience, I have reached a maturity in my Dominance where I am deeply satisfied. I find pleasure in carnal delights spanning the sensual to the sadistic, not forgetting the down-right depraved.
Further to this maturity in my pleasures, I have cultivated within myself a stillness that is palpable and ease-inducing within those who enter my sphere, and I’m here to share that with you.
It wasn’t always easy for me. The realm of the erotic can be deeply confusing, even frightening. Sometimes it felt as if everyone else in the world must be having the most amazing time, but I felt alone. It took courage, a choice to immerse myself in the company of others who supported and shared my vision, and the drive to say ‘I need things to be different’ – and mean it – to make the change.
That change came in adopting principals and politics that took me far away from some people I love, and towards others I now love differently. It came in examining every part of myself – the bold and the brave; the frightened and shy; my rebel, my rage, my rawness. It also came with building resilience in the form of self-compassion that allows for hopefulness, even, when sitting with pain. I am finding more peace, and I believe in acting with greater grace, as I follow this path.
I consider myself profoundly privileged to walk alongside other brave souls who dare to look beyond societal accepted norms of pleasure and play, and beyond the dualistic demands of conventional life. We are outlaws splashing in the pools, swimming in the lakes, and diving deep into the oceans- I like to get wet (!) – where there are myriad shades of grey to be with and explore.
I frequently return to Rumi’s famous verse to remind myself why I took this, not altogether easy, path. It reminds me that going ‘back to sleep’ was never an option for me. How about you?
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase “each other”
doesn’t make any sense.
The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.”
What the erotic means to me. What could it mean to you?
The erotic is the keystone to who I am. It connects everything. It comes from my core.
The erotic is life: in that it is synonymous with vibrancy, aliveness, harmony, connection, spirituality.
The erotic is fun: in that it can be light, playful, rambunctious and hedonistic.
The erotic is edgy: in that it can bring us face to face with who we really are; unmasked, unpretentious, human, spirit.
The erotic is medicine – in that it has the power to facilitate healing; physical, emotional, and spiritual.
