Expanded kink

Is Expanded and / or Trauma-informed kink for you?

  • Have you had a secret interest in kink, but are feeling ambiguous about pursuing it or unsure to move forward?
  • Is the thought of placing yourself in the hands of a Mistress unappealing and you’d like to access BDSM a different way?
  • Do you know you have trauma that is likely to be triggered by BDSM play and would like to explore it slowly and mindfully with a trauma-informed person?
  • Are you interested in introducing a kink to a partner, but are not sure how it will be received and would like coaching, and / or learn more about it first?
  • Do you want to play safely, in a risk aware consensual way (RACK)? Did you know to do so you must be comfortable with the answers ‘yes’ and ‘no’, and develop a whole heap of communication skills, to do so?
  • Would you and your partner like some private tuition in a particular kinky skill?
  • Have you been playing for years and would like to understand this desire from a more embodied perspective?

If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, you might benefit from engaging in my ‘Trauma-informed kink’ sessions.


For some people their journey into kink is like a ‘coming home’, a place where conflicts are effortlessly resolved, a place that makes sense, a safe haven.

For others it is journey that takes enormous courage and determination to begin, then return, and shine light on that which is shrouded in secrecy and shame.

For me the latter is more true. And I believe that my own experience (my twisting-turning journey marked with angst and trepidation, perseverance and reward, pain and pleasure) puts me in a qualified position to guide, listen, and walk with you that fine paradoxical line between your joy and your fear.

What is it?

These sessions are my own creation – a hybrid form of embodied learning & kink education. I have incorporated all I have gathered in the last 9 years of training and lived experience in Sex Work, Pro-Domination, Sexological Bodywork, Somatic Sex Education, Embodiment Counselling, trauma informed training, conflict resolution / World Work, shamanic practices, consent training, neo-tantra training, and kink workshops, education and practice.

I create a space where you can feel really heard, and where you can relearn to listen to your true self. Sessions are about your learning and personal & sexual development in relation to kink and BDSM play.

While ‘Trauma-informed kink’ sessions are ideal for those who know they are likely to be triggered by the play that interests them, I created another name of ‘Expanded Kink’ as they are also really useful for getting to know yourself better, and communicate better, whatever your existing relationship with kinky play. They can also make you a better player, by becoming more embodied and trauma informed yourself, so your future partners can feel safe and supported with your skills.

Contact Me

Even if you’re curious, and aren’t sure whether this is right for you, it would be lovely to hear from you.

I can also help connect you with a range of trusted professionals in my network whose support might suit you or complement our sessions.